"The sex-starved marriage" a TED talk by Michele Weiner-Davis. A clear and heartful inquiry into marriages where one person yearns for more sexual intimacy and the other is uninterested, and how to shift this dynamic.
It is not reserved for special people with special powers. This wisdom is ours, simply because we are alive.
That you have shut down your heart a bit here and there may be no big deal, until you find when you want to open your heart to life, to express your creativity or your love, to become more of who you are ... you are unable to do it.
Imagine being who you really are ... You are fully present in your life - intelligent, wise, clear, aware and creative. You have reconciled the past. You know who you are and what your purpose is. You trust your instincts and your knowing about things. You are guided always by love and not by fear. You are deeply connected with your self, with others and with Existence.
Healing means coming back to this state of being, which is your true essence. We are all the best of humanity at our essence, and we all have the capacity to live from it (yes, this even applies to YOU!) When you heal the various physical, emotional, mental and spiritual traumas which happen as a result of being alive, you return organically to your glorious and simple wholeness.
Breathwork helps heal:
Breathwork is a highly effective tool for:
In its simple focus on the breath, Breathwork enables you to go beyond what you already know with the rational mind, to what your experience is, in the body. Within the body is the memory of every experience you have ever had, from the time way back in your development when your cellular building blocks first began. All the feelings of your bliss, love and joy, as well as your pain, anger and fear, are remembered in the body.
In every life, there are experiences and feelings which are too intense and powerful to integrate fully. In order to survive, you learn to hold on. You shut down the hard bits and get on with the business of living, and as a consequence of this holding, you also shut down your fullness - your whole self.
So it happens that we shut down the body's natural healing mechanisms.
We learn to use alcohol/drugs/food/work/busy-ness/drama/fighting/sex/shopping and many other distractions to keep it all safely numb. It would be great if this worked without the unwanted side effects! And we also tend to numb the internal guidance - our knowing about who we are, about what we want, our knowing about how to re-connect.
Breathwork is a simple tool for accessing the whole kit-and-caboodle! It's is also the queen of tools for achieving self awareness, and allowing the body's natural machanisms to work effectively for healing, releasing, resolving, cleansing and regenerating.
Just as when you plant something in your garden, and you give it all the right conditions to thrive, you build your own natural resilience by putting yourself where you thrive!
~ The body automatically moves to heal wounds as soon as they occur, and will do so incredibly effectively when we do our bit by providing the right environment.
~ Breathwork provides that environment. It creates a safe and supported space to LISTEN, attentively and lovingly, to that which is seeking to balance itself.
~ Breathwork is also a wonderful meditation tool. It teaches a focus on what is happening right here and now, otherwise known as MINDFULNESS.
Just a breath away is your knowing about what you need in order to heal unresolved business. And just a breath away is the memory of who you really are, of your truth, and of what you need in order to live according to that truth.
Counselling and breathwork sessions are available at Hobart Breathing Space, 13b Goulburn Street, Hobart on some days, and online on other days. A regular session is 90 minutes long and costs $150.
I offer counselling, mediation, conflict resolution, and the help you need to deepen your relationships ~ for all couples (regardless of gender, sexuality or multiple choices), for groups, colleagues, friends and family.
Telephone or Online sessions can be very effective if you are unable to come to Hobart, r if you prefer to work from the comfort of your own space. As per one to one sessions, they will take up to 90 minutes, and cost the same as one to one sessions - $150 per 90 minutes, or $100 per hour.
Generally when you come for a Breathwork session, you will be guided to relax and to become very present in the body. You will then focus on the breath. You will be coached and encouraged to breathe evenly and fully, to gradually and gently expand the breath beyond its tightness and its holdings, into a deep, rich and complete breath. The inhale and the exhale will merge together and become circular. You will be encouraged and supported to keep breathing.
As you develop the intention to explore your deeper self, and you find a safe place to let go of the holding, and to open to yourself, you relax. You breathe. You let go! What was held and unexpresed comes into conscious awareness, where you can face it with the wisdom and maturity that you bring now. You will meet your inner world, come to know it, and release that which is held. Stress falls away, tension falls away, Life has more room. And you will have access to the natural joy that arises when old tensions find their expression.
Feelings are information from your body's organic and wise internal guidance system. They not only show you what's right for you and when you're on the right track, they also highlight what is love and what is not love. An uncomfortable feeling nudges you to heal so you can be your true self.
To reclaim the fullness of the Heart, sometimes you need to revisit the reasons you closed off your heart, to be willing to go there. In doing this you allow this incredibly clever organism that you are, to do what it knows how to do, and that is to self heal.
When you get out of the way, the body, the spirit, the soul will heal.
Call 0429 167 480 or email for further inquiries.
The foundation of my work is the trust that, no matter what is happening for you, something good is trying to happen. We are self healing organisms - our physical and emotional bodies are constantly renewing and changing in order to keep us well, and to keep us adapting to our current environment. Emotional, spiritual, mental and physical distress are all the body's way of letting us know that something is not right and requires our attention. Trusting what is happening and listening to it will guide you to where healing is required.
We will deepen the enquiry beyond what we think is happening in the inner world - if your mind was capable of solving your deeper problems, you would not be reading this! You'd have sorted it out by thinking it through and deciding to act differently. The reason that isn't working is that there is always a deeper story, known in the body, and this is where true healing occurs and lasting change can happen.
My computer will only do as it's programmed to do. No matter how much I want it to do something different, it's absolutely not going to until I change the program. When I find the program and untick that box that tells it what to do, then permanent and lasting change happens. In human be-ing, we change the program in the body ~ rarely is the intellect sufficient to deeply heal us or to create profound change.
This body that we have, this very body that's sitting here right now in this room, this very body that perhaps aches, and this mind that we have at this very moment, are exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, and fully alive. Furthermore, the emotions that we have right now, the negativity and the positivity, are what we actually need. It is just as if we looked around to find out what would be the greatest wealth that we could possibly possess in order to lead to a decent, good, completely fulfilling, energetic, inspired life, and found it right here. ~ Pema Chödrön, "The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving Kindness"
Rarely can relationship distress and crisis be dealt with by the things that the rational mind knows about already ... again, if the intellect could sort it, you wouldn't be looking for support. The focus of my work is to help you go beyond the surface struggles, to where something deep and healing is trying to happen.
Loving relationships are like containers. A major purpose of this container is to heal that which is not love ... so the wounds and traumas and unfinished stuff from all our relationships will come up. As familiarity and connection deepen, the container becomes stronger, and more comes up. Because it feels so terrible when all the old stuff arises, we presume that something must be really wrong with the other person or the relationship. It's rare that we are able to recognise that our own deep wounds have been scratched and are influencing the present situation, or that the other's old experiences are affecting how they see me. It feels like it's all about now.
All relationships are welcome - friends, colleagues, family members, intimate same sex relationships, non-binary gender, non-monogamous, polyamorous.
It is not the job of your friends and family to fill you up and make your life how you want it. This is the job of your connection to your self, to your Source, to the All-That-Is. You fill yourself up with connectedness. With love. Then you can authentically give, and open to the true joy of relationships.
Come together ~ When you have issues with people at work, with friends and family members, with neighbours ~ Journey to the Heart of the matter.
The aim of this work is to not only find a win/win solution for the particular issue at hand, but also to seek and to heal that which really in the way of easy, respectful and generous relating. Underneath any conflict or interpersonal difficulty, is at least one human being who is doing their best to muddle through with the programs laid down over a lifetime. These programs are usually unconscious, and yet they tend to run on automatic, constantly influencing how we see the world, ourselves and other people in it.
The work of resolution is to gently and kindly explore the underlying programs we're all working from - to understand our own and the other's, and to find alternatives which allow ease.
If you're not able to come and sit with me in Hobart, telephone or Online sessions can be very useful and effective. They take up to 90 minutes, and are conducted as much like one to one sessions as possible. We book a time, and you make a time and space for yourself where you will be alone, relaxed, and not interrupted.
The cost for phone consultations is the same as one to one - $150 for 90 minutes, or $100 per hour.
Counselling sessions are available at Hobart Breathing Space in Hobart, Tasmania on some days, and online on other days. Each session is 90 minutes, and costs $150. Online and telephone sessions are also available.
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