Retreats

"It was a real demonstration for me as to how easily things can happen when they come from love rather than from effort."
 
"I have found every retreat I have done with Cindy to be a profound, rich, life affirming experience. They have also facilitated wonderful transformation in my approach to life and my quality of life. I can't recommended them highly enough." Andrew Doube
 
"The BREATHE retreat was a really life changing experience for me - I dealt with the cancer issues I had wanted to work on; and also a bonus in husband and family issues as well. I feel a great lightness of being; especially body-wise with the wonderful access that chakra breathing vouchsafed. And I have so much energy for finding my path for the next 20 years of my life's journey! No hurry, it will emerge in its own time, and I'll know it when it does." Louise Crossley
 
"Thank you so much for the retreat. I am so glad I ignored my resistance and made myself go! I knew it would benefit me but didn't realise to what extent! Wow! How awesome it was to release so much! How wonderful! Amazed. In awe of what took place. Some changes I've noticed. I'm not sure but I get the feeling I've found my strength and confidence. I'm yet to test it when I really need to be strong and confident. That's one of the things that I've wanted! Rather then walking around like I used to - awkward and low self-esteem. Like I don't matter and like I'm less than others. It's quiet but I think it's there. I matter. I'm strong. More comfortable in my own skin I think.  Thank you so much Cindy! And all the beautiful people that made the retreat possible. I too am grateful for the sacred space that helped me along in my journey." Kate K

Sessions

"What I think you are doing is assisting people to align their way of living with their true selves. Mostly we have to clear away all the crap to find out what our true self is and then we have to build practices that assist us to shift towards living our truth. For me you are the facilitator of that process on all levels, which is a pretty awesome thing."  Juliet Chapman
 
"It's amazing how much I feel that I have changed and grown through the things I've shared with you. I trust you'll understand my appreciation goes deeper than words can express. Today's session went right where I needed to go and have an honest feel around, so thank you for guiding me there".
 
"I saw a little bit of light, I feel a great deal of relief, thank you."

Women's Circle

"Sitting in circles regularly has allowed me to subconsciously clean up my past life path. The compounded layers of life which have suppressed the real me being true to myself in the present moment are dissipating. I am becoming aware I can go within and listen to my own wisdom and trust I will safely guide myself through the hard times and the good. Thank you Cindy for creating such a sacred space." Alice.
 
"Thank you Cindy for the circle early this month - you have such a patient and caring heart, it is so beautiful that you offer this space for women to share."
 
"I love coming to Circle - such an honest way to come to understand my life and that of others. Through the guided meditations I receive powerful messages and wisdom. And such beauty, tenderness and love. The circle of women each have profound respect for one another and we are supported in our journeys by Cindy, who, like a midwife, guides us through previously unchartered waters of our souls." Sue
 
"That weekend was indeed a fabulously rich and well-timed blessing! Thank you all for your presence, and especially you Cindy, for your extraordinary patience, perseverence and compassion... "
 
"The weekend was rich syrupy womanly goodness, I am so grateful. I felt so supported, and so washed over with beauty. Captivated and touched by the stories, feelings and insights of the women. i smile so broadly when I think of the grounded and authentic and playful guidance you offered us all so generously."

Meditation CDs

"The CDs have arrived safely - thank you so much.... gee they are good!!! I've just about listened the words off them already!!!  And as you say, 'Breathwork is so simple' but my golly, it works beautifully!!"
 
"The CDs don't just look beautiful - They make me feel close to myself, close to you, close to something bigger. You have no idea how helpful they've been.  Thankyou."
 
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Here you will find links to sites, books, films and other resources that I've found inspiring

On Breathwork

The Australian Breathwork Association was established in 1997, and is the professional association for Breathwork Practitioners in Australia. Its role is to support and facilitate the development of Breathwork standards and practice. Use this website to find practitioners and events all over Australia, and for information on the annual Breathe Australia Conference.
 
The International Breathwork Foundation is a world-wide network of people from different traditions and professions who are inspired by and interested in the practice of Conscious Breathing and Breathwork. The IBF warmly welcomes everyone who is interested in breathing as a tool for mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. A good website for Breathwork practitioners internationally, and the annual Global Inspiration Conference.
 
The Secret in the Cells - an ariticle by Christine Heart Savage, explaining how the body 'remembers' all the events of your life. The information is stored in the cells.

Books and Magazines

"Radical Honesty - how telling the truth can change your life" by Brad Blanton. A funny sort of irreverent book which nevertheless contains exquisite wisdom about the nature and the power of the truth. Our culture teaches us that we can't really say what we feel or what we really want so we learn to get what we need in manipulative ways. This book offers a radical truth telling that really matches my sense that healing and wellness is the ability to be true to what's actually happening. 
 
"Healing through the Dark Emotions" by Miriam Greenspan. An excellent appreciation of the deep purpose of the emotional life - learn about the alchemy of what we call the 'dark' emotions: a transformational process by which grief becomes gratitude, fear turns to joy, and despair opens a doorway to a more resiliant faith in life.
 
"Dying to be Me" by Anita Moorjani. A spectacular account of Anita's journey dying of cancer when her body completely shut down after four years of illness. Anita shares her experience of entering another dimension and being given a choice of whether to return to life or not. She experienced great clarity and understanding of her life and purpose here on earth.
 
"Pathways to Family Wellness": A quarterly publication from the US which consistently has a wonderful range of articles and resources around wholistic health, parenting, healthcare, consciousness, science and spirit, birth, love and gratitude, food, gardening. It's a great magazine, well worth subscribing.
 
"Am I going Mad? The Unsettling Phenomena of Spiritual Evolution" By Marlyse Carroll.  A book about the extraordinary spiritual experiences that often meet us at various stages of personal evolution. For a spiritual awakening is not all about love and light, far from it! Some of its phenomena can be very unsettling, to the point of being mistaken for depression or other symptoms of mental illness. Marlyse Carroll is a wonderful woman and this book is an excellent resource for those times when the journey takes you to places where you think you're going loopy!

Movies

"The Day I stood Up Alone" is a very moving account of Kenyan photgrapher Boniface Mwangi's journey to finding out what he was born for, how he stood up for what he felt passionate about and found his vioce.
 
"The space between self-esteem and self-compassion" - A TED talk by Kristen Neff that offers a clear guide to treating yourself lovingly. She offers research to show what kindness does, what being unkind to yourself creates - an inspiring and very practical guide to being okay!
 
"The person you really need to marry" - A TED talk from Tracy McMillan about the relationship that you have with yourself, the one you take with you into every relationship you have with other people. A heartful invitation to commit to your self, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, ...
 
"How to make stress your friend" - a TED talk from psychologist Kelly McGonigal. Beautiful wisdom, how your THOUGHTS about stress have more impact on your health than the stress itself.
 
"The voices in my head" - a TED talk by Eleanor Longden on what schizophrenia is like. A wise approach to being human that asks us to listen to what's really happening, to avoid the habit of pathologising, calling it illness, and allowing the truth of things to be the wise internal guide.
 
"The power of introverts" - a TED talk by author Susan Cain, pointing out that we live in a world which adores the extrovert, and have forgotten not only that up to a half of humans are introverted, but also that we need introverts! Remembering this gives you permission to respect your own ways of being and to listen to your needs.
 
 "The Power of Vulnerability" is a must see! Brené Brown studies human connection - our ability to empathize, belong, love. In this poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest from linear and logical scientific objectivity, to knowing herself and understanding humanity.
 
"The whispers of the body" - a TED talk by MD Lissa Rankin is a very inspiring and beautiful 18 minute talk on the truth about health from a medically trained woman who has become a true healer - that health is not just about the body. It's more like a cairn, with the wisdom of inner light as its foundation, and built on top are all aspects of our lives - our creative, sexual, relationship, work, family, financial lives. The body is perched precariously on top, vulnerable to any of the underneath stones losing its balance.
 
"Older people are happier" - a TED talk by psychologist Laura Carsten. She looks at the potential of an aging population, when we bring our wisdom and experience to our culture. It's inspiring to see research that shows how come we seem to get happier as we age. 
 
"Why dieting doesn't work" a TED talk by neuroscientist Sandra Aamodt, who uses her personal story to frame an important lesson about how our brains manage our bodies. She explores the science behind why dieting not only doesn't work, but is likely to do more harm than good. She suggests ideas for how to live a less diet-obsessed life, intuitively.

"The sex-starved marriage" a TED talk by Michele Weiner-Davis. A clear and heartful inquiry into marriages where one person yearns for more sexual intimacy and the other is uninterested, and how to shift this dynamic.

Generally very good things!

Michael Thomsen - Naturopath and incredibly generous IT wonder who supported me massively with building this website! Thank you Michael.
 
The International College of Spiritual Midwifery - The teaching of the International College of Spiritual Midwifery is centred on returning women to the sovereignty of their own bodies, and the inherent power within. Visit this site for information on the five day Women's Mysteries Retreat offered by Shivam Rachana - My work has been deeply informed by Rachana's teaching and I highly recommend this work. 
 
FIMBY is a Hobart based enterprise, created to inspire and support people to grow their own food. They are a heartful, beautiful and wise mob, and work with great integrity to grow the community's connections to the earth, the seasons and to each other. I'm very happy to be connected with them.
 
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Meditations for Wisdom and Healing

A three CD toolkit for the maladies and deficiencies that tend to arise as a natural consequence of being human!

Four powerful meditations from the heart, guided by Cindy Aulby ~ the complete tool kit to support your inner work, your Journey to the Heart


 

CD1 The Wisdom Journey

How often in hindsight do you wish you'd known better before you acted, reacted, spoke, or made decisions?
 
Have you racked your brains trying to work things out, and ended up being confused and incapable of acting wisely?
 
Are there times when other people's behaviour or actions bewilder you, when you just don't understand where others are coming from?
 
These are some of the times when you require a kind of knowing that you cannot access by thinking about it.
 
 
Our culture teaches us to depend on our rational minds, to practice mind over matter and over-ride the knowing that comes to us through our hearts and bodies. We develop our intellectual intelligence, and we bypass the enormous intelligence that comes from other sources. Over time we forget that any other way exists.
 
Wholeness requires that we re-align ourselves with the body's wisdom. Letting go of the thinking mind, and becoming present to the body's sensations, we gradually re-member the body's rich and accurate language.
 
Our inner landscape is inextricably connected to everything else, so as we go inward, we access different layers of wisdom, beyond the mind, and beyond anything we can learn in books.
 
While Western culture places little confidence in it, most of us are familiar with the concepts of other layers of awareness. At some level, most of us are aware of collective conscoiusness, that which is our shared human experience and is passed on naturally by the processes of evolution. We also can know about things through our ancestral or racial consciousness, that is passed on to us through our personal lineage. And most have heard of higher consciousness, the knowing that is ours for the asking, by virtue of being part of the whole, or One with the Universe.
 
However we understand it, we all have a natural acess to wisdom which is all-knowing and always available when we open to it.

It is not reserved for special people with special powers. This wisdom is ours, simply  because we are alive.

To access all our knowing requires us to surrender the mind's confidence, to be comfortable in the not knowing, and to allow our natural intuition and body awareness to unfold and to awaken.
 
This meditation creates the ideal environment for such awakening. Like any new skill, trying it a few times will add to its strength, and will increase your capacity to do it well.
 

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CD 2 Beyond the Past

How do you "Just get over it!"?

We all experience painful and challenging times in our lives. In processing these events, we develop the tools we need as adults to live well to open heartfully.
 
We are a bit like computers, downloading programs, as and when we need them, to deal with the specific environment we find ourselves in. These programs remain intact, often unconsciously. They continue to inform who we are and how we experience the world. Life has a beautiful knack of ensuring that we regularly revisit these programs - it is life's way of inviting healing. Events, people, places, music and smells will trigger old feelings and old wounds, pointing us constantly in the direction of what requires resolution. When triggers happen, this meditation will guide you in to the original program, and here it offers simple healing of the distortions, blockages and inhibitions that past woundings have put in place.
 
Where previously we have been re-active, re-enacting the old stories, we become able to respond, response-able, for our own feelings and our selves.
 
This meditation process offers simple and practical pathways towards self love, self respect and compassion.
 

Survive or thrive

We are extraordinarily adaptable us humans! We manage to survive in circumstances where other mammals would simply wither and die. Yet surviving and thriving can be worlds apart, and unless we find completion and heal these old wounds, they continue to inform who we are and how we view our world. The old fears, anxieties, beliefs and decisions form templates: default settings that automatically and unconsciously come into play in similar situations until we do something about it – until we change the underlying programme.
 
When matters from the past are allowed their completion, life in the present becomes exquisitely simple. Emotions and feeling states lose their pressure-cooker kind of intensity. They become appropriate to the moment, an understandable response to what’s happening in the here and now ... Emotions arise, we express them, they pass. Where previously we have been reactive, we become able to respond, response-able for our actions and behaviour, for our relationships, for our own happiness and satisfaction, responsible for our own lives.

Comparison

It can be tempting to discount the more subtle woundings we encounter when seeking within, because it seems like nothing compared to what people suffer through wars or famine, abuse or illness. We can all think of someone worse off than we are.
 
Trauma impacts us all differently, in gross or subtle ways, and at the physical, mental, emotional and/or spiritual levels. I've met people who appear to have lived charmed lives. They've had nourishing childhoods, loving parents, no big trauma has happened. Yet there might be one thing that happened to them at school that has wounded them deeply, some unwise and damaging act by a teacher for instance. This might create all sorts of long term damage to the inner sense of self, that impacts all subsequent relationships. Others I've met have been significantly traumatised over long periods of time, and yet they seem reasonably undamaged, happy and well balanced. There is no wound meter that applies to all of us. 
 
The more subtle woundings can be harder to grasp and therefore to heal, yet they still continue to create damage. It may be that no one event has damaged us, but that our suffering was through the unwise and unconscious guidance of those who cared for us, or that we grew within isolated and culturally barren environments. Any combination of small factors can teach us to shut down and adjust our organic nature – we do whatever we can in order to comply, to be acceptable and to fit in.

Why dig up the past?

The pain is well buried, the events forgotten, so why dig up the past if it’s well and gone? Why not just focus on how you want to be now?
 
That you have shut down your heart a bit here and there may be no big deal, until you find when you want to open your heart to life, to express your creativity or your love, to become more of who you are ... you are unable to do it.
 
Maybe you find yourself in a place that’s kind of familiar, and it’s not working!
 
Maybe you're doing great then something triggers you, and before you know it you're in this spiral of reaction, fed by old familiar fear / anger / shutting down / addictive behaviour / neediness / insecurity … We can have all the best intentions and strategies in place, yet still things have the power to get underneath all our good plans and trigger us into uncontrollable feelings and behaviour. 
 
It might be a pattern of relating or shutting down around loved ones, or there’s a type of person you keep attracting even though it doesn’t serve you well. It may be you are anxious, you panic or you feel fears that don’t make sense in the present. Or perhaps you notice that you’re unable to create your own life or achieve the success that seems like it should be simple and achievable ... you might feel as if you run up against a brick wall, you get stuck or blocked before you reach your goal, you might give up around the same point at each new project? 
 
That’s why. The meditation will guide you back to the original source of beliefs, habits and behaviours which require completion, to where the template was created. 
 
This process enables deep healing for the younger you. It enables you to live more fully in the present, whole, as the adult you are now ... fully aware, conscious and able to respond wisely rather than re-act unconsciously.
 

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CD3 Relax

and let yourself go

The busy-ness of modern life seems to be continuallly increasing, as are our levels of stress and anxiety. We are forgetting how to rest. Culturally we deny our need to rest, so much that it's seen as a weakness to recognise that we're tired and to stop. Few of us allow time in our days to simply be, to drop by the wayside for a moment and let it go.
 
 
This CD offers 2 meditations. The first is designed for those delicious moments when you decide to drop it all and to re-connect with the present, with your center. When you do this consciously, you are able to re-enter the world afresh: centered, alert and unfrazzled.
 
Busy-ness can leave you very wound up at the end of the day, so that relaxing into a restful sleep can become problematic. Use the second meditation to gently calm thoughts and relax the body, so that natural sleep becomes far more likely.
 
Both meditations offer gentle suggestions and prompts to help develop self-acceptance, increased awareness, full and healthy breathing, and being present in the body.
 

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How to use these meditations

Create time and place where you will be comfortable, uninterrupted, when you can ignore the world's demands for an hour or so, and where you can be entirely focused with yourself.

Trust your inner guidance

These meditations will guide you towards an altered state of consciousness. It is a safe and deeply nourishing place to be. The generic nature of the particular processes can only be a guide, and I recommend that you trust your self when you enter your process. Your awareness will take you to where your attention is most needed, and this may be unexpected - it may take you to unfamiliar places beyond your conscious memory, or beyond your current map of what is possible. Trust your inner guidance, and resist the temptation to change what is happening. Trust what happens, even if you don't understand it at the time. If you feel safe and in the right place, let yourself go there.
 
If you feel unsure or concerned about where you are going, then bring yourself back. Focus on my voice or on the music, and gently return. Come back to the present by wriggling your toes, and by remembering ordinary everyday things such as what day of the week it is, what colour your clothes are, what room you are in. If you still feel wobbly, count yourself in: Picture that you are outside of your body, and count from 20 down to one, as you bring yourself more and more into your self. If it feels to you that you are a long way away, begin your count at 100, and count yourself slowly and methodically back in, until you get back to one, and present, in this moment.
 
Check in with yourself. Where did you go? Was your resistance wise and in your service, or was it fear of change, fear of the unknown? Offer yourself the opportunity to start the process again, to go back and trust where your awareness takes you.

Integration

After the meditation, before you move back into the activities of your day, please allow the time to bring your experience into your everyday state of consciousness. You might write down what you remember, or draw it. Allow your body to choose the colours that feel right, and let your body make marks on paper until it feels like it's finished. It can be illuminating to then look deeply into what you have drawn and see how you feel - what comes to you? If talking works for you, you might share your experience with someone you trust, being alert to remain in your own process for as long as you need to. If you jump out too soon, you may deny yourself some valuable integration and understanding.
 
If you encounter material that you find difficult to understand or integrate - First relax and Breathe. Give it time. The material you have encountered has been living inside you, and you have simply shone the light of your awareness onto it. It is nothing new.
 
If you feel you have encountered material that is not yours, consciously let it go. Let it go into Light. And remember that if and when you feel stuck or would like some help, there are many skilled practitioners to help you find your way through. Trust your inner guidance, and seek help, even when your mind tries to talk you out of it!

Contact me ...

if you have specific questions arising from your journey, or if you have encountered material that you are struggling with. I'm happy to offer my help, and sometimes it may be wise to schedule a personal appointment or telephone consultation. Email me or phone 0429 167 480
 

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Breathwork is the manificent tool at the core of my work

It is a simple and safe technique for healing body, heart, spirit and soul

Imagine being who you really are ...  You are fully present in your life - intelligent, wise, clear, aware and creative.  You have reconciled the past.  You know who you are and what your purpose is.  You trust your instincts and your knowing about things.  You are guided always by love and not by fear.  You are deeply connected with your self, with others and with Existence.

Healing means coming back to this state of being, which is your true essence. We are all the best of humanity at our essence, and we all have the capacity to live from it (yes, this even applies to YOU!) When you heal the various physical, emotional, mental and spiritual traumas which happen as a result of being alive, you return organically to your glorious and simple wholeness.

What is Breathwork?

Breathwork helps heal:

  • stress related conditions
  • anxiety
  • depression
  • menopausal and other hormone related imbalance
  • poor self esteem
  • eating disorders
  • addictions
  • post natal depression
  • sexual issues
  • relationship disharmony
  • traumatic memories and experiences
  • unhappiness
  • healing the body
  • all the waves that arise as a consequence of being human!

Breathwork is a highly effective tool for:

  • stress management
  • becoming centered
  • becoming present in your body
  • resolving pain and trauma
  • reconciling the past
  • increasing self confidence
  • increasing self awareness
  • anger management and expression
  • navigating relationship difficulties
  • supporting the process of grief and loss
  • supporting pregnancy and preparing for childbirth
  • expanding consciousness
  • increasing creativity
  • increasing mind clarity and intelligence 

 

In its simple focus on the breath, Breathwork enables you to go beyond what you already know with the rational mind, to what your experience is, in the body. Within the body is the memory of every experience you have ever had, from the time way back in your development when your cellular building blocks first began. All the feelings of your bliss, love and joy, as well as your pain, anger and fear, are remembered in the body. 

In every life, there are experiences and feelings which are too intense and powerful to integrate fully. In order to survive, you learn to hold on. You shut down the hard bits and get on with the business of living, and as a consequence of this holding, you also shut down your fullness - your whole self. 

So it happens that we shut down the body's natural healing mechanisms.

We learn to use alcohol/drugs/food/work/busy-ness/drama/fighting/sex/shopping and many other distractions to keep it all safely numb. It would be great if this worked without the unwanted side effects! And we also tend to numb the internal guidance - our knowing about who we are, about what we want, our knowing about how to re-connect.

Breathwork is a simple tool for accessing the whole kit-and-caboodle! It's is also the queen of tools for achieving self awareness, and allowing the body's natural machanisms to work effectively for healing, releasing, resolving, cleansing and regenerating.

Just as when you plant something in your garden, and you give it all the right conditions to thrive, you build your own natural resilience by putting yourself where you thrive!

~ The body automatically moves to heal wounds as soon as they occur, and will do so incredibly effectively when we do our bit by providing the right environment.

~ Breathwork provides that environment. It creates a safe and supported space to LISTEN, attentively and lovingly, to that which is seeking to balance itself.

~ Breathwork is also a wonderful meditation tool. It teaches a focus on what is happening right here and now, otherwise known as MINDFULNESS.

Just a breath away is your knowing about what you need in order to heal unresolved business. And just a breath away is the memory of who you really are, of your truth, and of what you need in order to live according to that truth.

Sessions - when, where, how long, how much?

Counselling and breathwork sessions are available at Hobart Breathing Space, 13b Goulburn Street, Hobart on some days, and online on other days. A regular session is 90 minutes long and costs $150.

Come together

I offer counselling, mediation, conflict resolution, and the help you need to deepen your relationships ~ for all couples (regardless of gender, sexuality or multiple choices), for groups, colleagues, friends and family.

Not in Hobart?

Telephone or Online sessions can be very effective if you are unable to come to Hobart, r if you prefer to work from the comfort of your own space. As per one to one sessions, they will take up to 90 minutes, and cost the same as one to one sessions - $150 per 90 minutes, or $100 per hour.

What happens in a Breath session?

Generally when you come for a Breathwork session, you will be guided to relax and to become very present in the body. You will then focus on the breath. You will be coached and encouraged to breathe evenly and fully, to gradually and gently expand the breath beyond its tightness and its holdings, into a deep, rich and complete breath. The inhale and the exhale will merge together and become circular. You will be encouraged and supported to keep breathing.

As you develop the intention to explore your deeper self, and you find a safe place to let go of the holding, and to open to yourself, you relax. You breathe. You let go! What was held and unexpresed comes into conscious awareness, where you can face it with the wisdom and maturity that you bring now. You will meet your inner world, come to know it, and release that which is held. Stress falls away, tension falls away, Life has more room. And you will have access to the natural joy that arises when old tensions find their expression.

Breathwork invites you to welcome your feelings.

Feelings are information from your body's organic and wise internal guidance system. They not only show you what's right for you and when you're on the right track, they also highlight what is love and what is not love. An uncomfortable feeling nudges you to heal so you can be your true self.

To reclaim the fullness of the Heart, sometimes you need to revisit the reasons you closed off your heart, to be willing to go there. In doing this you allow this incredibly clever organism that you are, to do what it knows how to do, and that is to self heal.

When you get out of the way, the body, the spirit, the soul will heal.

 

Call 0429 167 480 or email for further inquiries.

 

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Individual Counselling | Relationship Counselling | Mediation and Conflict Resolution | Telephone  or Skype Sessions | When, where, how long, how much?

The foundation of my work is the trust that, no matter what is happening for you, something good is trying to happen. We are self healing organisms - our physical and emotional bodies are constantly renewing and changing in order to keep us well, and to keep us adapting to our current environment. Emotional, spiritual, mental and physical distress are all the body's way of letting us know that something is not right and requires our attention. Trusting what is happening and listening to it will guide you to where healing is required.

Individual Counselling

We will deepen the enquiry beyond what we think is happening in the inner world - if your mind was capable of solving your deeper problems, you would not be reading this! You'd have sorted it out by thinking it through and deciding to act differently. The reason that isn't working is that there is always a deeper story, known in the body, and this is where true healing occurs and lasting change can happen.

My computer will only do as it's programmed to do. No matter how much I want it to do something different, it's absolutely not going to until I change the program. When I find the program and untick that box that tells it what to do, then permanent and lasting change happens. In human be-ing, we change the program in the body ~ rarely is the intellect sufficient to deeply heal us or to create profound change.

This body that we have, this very body that's sitting here right now in this room, this very body that perhaps aches, and this mind that we have at this very moment, are exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, and fully alive. Furthermore, the emotions that we have right now, the negativity and the positivity, are what we actually need. It is just as if we looked around to find out what would be the greatest wealth that we could possibly possess in order to lead to a decent, good, completely fulfilling, energetic, inspired life, and found it right here. ~ Pema Chödrön, "The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving Kindness"

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Relationship Counselling

Rarely can relationship distress and crisis be dealt with by the things that the rational mind knows about already ... again, if the intellect could sort it, you wouldn't be looking for support. The focus of my work is to help you go beyond the surface struggles, to where something deep and healing is trying to happen.  

Loving relationships are like containers. A major purpose of this container is to heal that which is not love ... so the wounds and traumas and unfinished stuff from all our relationships will come up. As familiarity and connection deepen, the container becomes stronger, and more comes up. Because it feels so terrible when all the old stuff arises, we presume that something must be really wrong with the other person or the relationship. It's rare that we are able to recognise that our own deep wounds have been scratched and are influencing the present situation, or that the other's old experiences are affecting how they see me. It feels like it's all about now.

All relationships are welcome - friends, colleagues, family members, intimate same sex relationships, non-binary gender, non-monogamous, polyamorous. 

 

It is not the job of your friends and family to fill you up and make your life how you want it. This is the job of your connection to your self, to your Source, to the All-That-Is. You fill yourself up with connectedness.  With love.  Then you can authentically give, and open to the true joy of relationships.

Mediation and Conflict Resolution

Come together ~ When you have issues with people at work, with friends and family members, with neighbours ~ Journey to the Heart of the matter.

The aim of this work is to not only find a win/win solution for the particular issue at hand, but also to seek and to heal that which really in the way of easy, respectful and generous relating. Underneath any conflict or interpersonal difficulty, is at least one human being who is doing their best to muddle through with the programs laid down over a lifetime. These programs are usually unconscious, and yet they tend to run on automatic, constantly influencing how we see the world, ourselves and other people in it.

The work of resolution is to gently and kindly explore the underlying programs we're all working from - to understand our own and the other's, and to find alternatives which allow ease.

Telephone or Online Sessions

If you're not able to come and sit with me in Hobart, telephone or Online sessions can be very useful and effective. They take up to 90 minutes, and are conducted as much like one to one sessions as possible. We book a time, and you make a time and space for yourself where you will be alone, relaxed, and not interrupted.

 The cost for phone consultations is the same as one to one - $150 for 90 minutes, or $100 per hour.

When, where, how long and how much?

Counselling sessions are available at Hobart Breathing Space in Hobart, Tasmania on some days, and online on other days.  Each session is 90 minutes, and costs $150. Online and telephone sessions are also available.

Click here for further inquiries and to book now.

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So take your time to meander through these pages, and I trust you will find what you are seeking as you Journey to the Heart.

Call 0429 167 480 or email for more information.

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