The foundation of my work is the trust that, no matter what is happening for you, something good is trying to happen. We are self healing organisms - our physical and emotional bodies are constantly renewing and changing in order to keep us well, and to keep us adapting to our current environment. Emotional, spiritual, mental and physical distress are all the body's way of letting us know that something is not right and requires our attention. Trusting what is happening and listening to it will guide you to where healing is required.
We will deepen the enquiry beyond what we think is happening in the inner world - if your mind was capable of solving your deeper problems, you would not be reading this! You'd have sorted it out by thinking it through and deciding to act differently. The reason that isn't working is that there is always a deeper story, known in the body, and this is where true healing occurs and lasting change can happen.
My computer will only do as it's programmed to do. No matter how much I want it to do something different, it's absolutely not going to until I change the program. When I find the program and untick that box that tells it what to do, then permanent and lasting change happens. In human be-ing, we change the program in the body ~ rarely is the intellect sufficient to deeply heal us or to create profound change.
This body that we have, this very body that's sitting here right now in this room, this very body that perhaps aches, and this mind that we have at this very moment, are exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, and fully alive. Furthermore, the emotions that we have right now, the negativity and the positivity, are what we actually need. It is just as if we looked around to find out what would be the greatest wealth that we could possibly possess in order to lead to a decent, good, completely fulfilling, energetic, inspired life, and found it right here. ~ Pema Chödrön, "The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving Kindness"
Rarely can relationship distress and crisis be dealt with by the things that the rational mind knows about already ... again, if the intellect could sort it, you wouldn't be looking for support. The focus of my work is to help you go beyond the surface struggles, to where something deep and healing is trying to happen.
Loving relationships are like containers. A major purpose of this container is to heal that which is not love ... so the wounds and traumas and unfinished stuff from all our relationships will come up. As familiarity and connection deepen, the container becomes stronger, and more comes up. Because it feels so terrible when all the old stuff arises, we presume that something must be really wrong with the other person or the relationship. It's rare that we are able to recognise that our own deep wounds have been scratched and are influencing the present situation, or that the other's old experiences are affecting how they see me. It feels like it's all about now.
All relationships are welcome - friends, colleagues, family members, intimate same sex relationships, non-binary gender, non-monogamous, polyamorous.
It is not the job of your friends and family to fill you up and make your life how you want it. This is the job of your connection to your self, to your Source, to the All-That-Is. You fill yourself up with connectedness. With love. Then you can authentically give, and open to the true joy of relationships.
Come together ~ When you have issues with people at work, with friends and family members, with neighbours ~ Journey to the Heart of the matter.
The aim of this work is to not only find a win/win solution for the particular issue at hand, but also to seek and to heal that which really in the way of easy, respectful and generous relating. Underneath any conflict or interpersonal difficulty, is at least one human being who is doing their best to muddle through with the programs laid down over a lifetime. These programs are usually unconscious, and yet they tend to run on automatic, constantly influencing how we see the world, ourselves and other people in it.
The work of resolution is to gently and kindly explore the underlying programs we're all working from - to understand our own and the other's, and to find alternatives which allow ease.
If you're not able to come and sit with me in Hobart, telephone or Online sessions can be very useful and effective. They take up to 90 minutes, and are conducted as much like one to one sessions as possible. We book a time, and you make a time and space for yourself where you will be alone, relaxed, and not interrupted.
The cost for phone consultations is the same as one to one - $150 for 90 minutes, or $100 per hour.
Counselling sessions are available at Hobart Breathing Space in Hobart, Tasmania on some days, and online on other days. Each session is 90 minutes, and costs $150. Online and telephone sessions are also available.
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